Sunday, August 2, 2015

Rubik's Dance Cubed at Cafe LaPe'rouse @ Austin


A Rubik's Dance was held on August 2, 2015 at Cafe LaPe'rouse @ Austin. It was hosted by Melinda Nyn, with Painthorse Graysmark as the DJ and Aria Vyper helping to set up the venue. As was usual for weekend events, I could not really attend for very long, but I did manage to jump into the fray for a short while, to take video clips and still images.

I later took the video clips and synched them to LeAnn Rimes' Can't Fight The Moonlight. You can view the video below, or click here to get the high res version direct from youtube.

I should note that in the clips, avatars in the background seem to be out of synch with the ones in the foreground, and this is due entirely to deficiencies in the processor speed or graphics capabilities of my laptop, and not because they were actually out of synch during the time.


The big news this day was that Marcus Massaro had offered Melinda a Collar of Consideration, and heaps of congratulations poured in from the attendees at the event, which included (in no particular order):

WW (worldwide Pedalo)
Ratzu Darkstone
Wildsoul Seerose
Sassy Snoodle
Jonathon Carbenell
Jata Wrigglesworth
Fia (fiammetta1981)
Marion Fadlan
MK
Marcus Massaro
Melinda Nyn
Aisha Sohl
Dakota (dakota0therbee)
LG (Lord Glasswing)
Orchid Zsun
Marquis Verlaine
Aga Cisse
WilliamWhipp
Kelly
Nebulous (nebulosy Darkmatter)
Sage Avedon
Billy Avedon
Forest of Azure

More pictures from the amazing venue created by Aria:











Sunday, July 26, 2015

Racing the Linda Lou


For the first time in weeks I took the Linda Lou out for a spin, sailing north at a fast clip from our home in Sailors Cove South, through the Spoondrift Narrows and then turning west after Horseshoe Park to go past Santa Catalina Island then southwest to moor at Sirens Isle.

On the way up I passed (and almost rammed!) another fast boat manned by Keliani, who was kind enough to accept my apologies for doing the sailing equivalent of street racing.


I moored in my usual spot, on the northern end of the chain, then rested on one of the outside seats to watch the passing traffic.


Sirens Isle itself had changed slightly, and not for the better in my opinion. The arrangement of land seemed more open, and less embracing than it used to be. although the crashed plan was still there.


But it was still a popular resting stop for passing sailors, who moored in its relatively sheltered waters after a long journey.


Interestingly enough, I think i was even privy to an unusual pick up attempt, with one man sidling over to a moored boat with a female captain and sunning himself while she did the same only a few meters away.

Alas, the woman left abruptly, and I could almost feel sad for the man as he raised sail and slowly moved on to the next island stop.

Friday, July 24, 2015

Billy and Sage's Beach Bash on 7/23/2015


I attended a beach party hosted by Billy and Sage Avedon in a beautifully-appointed sim called Tranquil Tiki Island, where they have a beach house. The owners of the sim, Wim Metty and Anne Buscayle were kind enough to set up a seaside dock as the venue.


I have to admit, the scenery was beautiful, as I've always been a fan of tropical beach settings, and  DJ Dee (Diana Wolfe) provided awesome music to complete the ensemble.

                Beautiful Tranquil Tiki island
The moment I arrived, Sage gave me a lei, which looked quite fetching on me. I may be domly, but that doesn't mean I can't look...hmmm...flowery...while practicing my craft!

Hawaii-5-Ohhhhhh
Billy and Sage also made sure the bar was well stocked, another big plus, which later caused quite a few people to become tipsy. Thank heavens Linda was not there or she might have gone above her two beer maximum and in a drunken stupor perhaps even (horror of horrors!) taken out her ukelele to belt out a raucous song that would (in her own words!) "make even cats cry".

mmmmmm....liquor!
But since Linda could not come due to RL, I drafted my store manager alt Ronnie (ronhuber) to act as my dance partner, though she proved rather clumsy, and I ended up getting my toes stepped on quite a bit.


Melinda Nyn later came in with Marcus Massaro. In addition, some of the other guests present included Crux Maximus, Dakota, Tiger Zepp, Arie Sewell, Mari Carducci, Damion (Cyberdami) and Lilian Howley.


It was a fun time for all, with jokes flying all over and the drinks flowing freely. I managed to stay for almost the full two hours of the party, and only had to leave because it was time to go home.

Thanks to Billy and Sage again for a great party! Here's to more drunken celebrations in the future!



Sunday, July 19, 2015

MK's thoughts on D/s

You're not infallible. Only douchebags never say sorry  when they fuck up  and hurt their baby girl.

What I've learned as I navigate the treacherous waters of D/s.

Friday, July 17, 2015

New inworld store locations


Due to unforeseen circumstances, Linda "The Slumlord" Burnstein-King and I (aka "the proletariat") had to move our inworld stores from Viper Bay to a new location in the mainland.

Linda's huge store is located at ground level:

http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Ethmia/236/234/84

The Depraved Monkey store is located at 1500 meters here:

http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Ethmia/247/237/1501

Sunday, July 12, 2015

Animal Dance at Cafe LaPe'rouse @ Austin


Melinda Nyn organized and hosted an impromptu Animal Dance event at Cafe LaPe'rouse @ Austin on July 12, 2015, with Painthorse Graysmark as the DJ, and Aria Vyper helping with the posters.

There was no temporary venue created for the event. Instead, the dance was held at the Cowgirl Heaven area of the sim. I could not join in the festivities, but I did drop by for a few minutes to take some pics and shoot a short video of the event.

A list from Melinda of some of the dancers and their costumes are listed below:

Melinda Nyn - rainbow horse
Marcus Massaro  - ape
Darla - tiger
Forest of Azure - werewolf
Aimee - skin      
Sergej - as himself
Orchid Zsun - pussy cat in gown
Mari Carducci - fox
Marion Fadlan - butterfly
Ratzu Darkstone - snoopy and woodstock
LG (Lord Glasswing) - brown bear
Opie - wolf
Sweetness Whitesong- leopard leotard
Avril Aura - panda
Sassy Snoodle - little fox
Kaer (Kaerlove Resident)- little unicorn
Alvise - bear
Rafe Allardyce - holding a flamingo
Jen Umaga - holding a flamingo
Dakota (dakota0therbee) -  white feathered neko outfit
Sevros Descent (Sevros Resident) - as self
Aisley (AisleyRansom Resident) - as self

Enjoy the short video of the event below, compiled to the tune of Maroon 5's 'Animals'.  I tried to synch the music with the dance. It was the first time I've taken an SL video in 4 years, and unfortunately I forgot to mute sound, which resulted in a hissing background to the vid.

You can click here to go directly to youtube and view it in high definition 1080p or 720p.


And some pics from the event:







Saturday, July 11, 2015

Ten important features and goals of Objectification, Dehumanization, and Depersonalization (ODD)


This is the second in a series of posts that will deal with fetishes that have been labeled as objectification, dehumanization, and depersonalization in BDSM, which I will refer to as ODD for short. To see more writings on this topic, click the ODD label below this article..

Submissives in a D/s or BDSM relationship who participate in ODD fetishes are trained to exhibit certain distinguishing features, which can also be thought of as goals or objectives in the context of a training regimen.

It is up to the submissive and her Dominant to decide how to weight the importance of each in their consensual relationship, as well as how to structure training so as to accomplish all the mutually agreed upon objectives.

In future posts I will go over each in turn.

1. Instrumentality

The submissive is simply a tool to be used.

2. Denial of Autonomy

The submissive lacks autonomy and self-determination. She can neither select her fate nor act independently.

3. Inertness

The submissive lacks agency, and is by herself non-moveable and unchanging.

4. Fungibility

The submissive is interchangeable with other people (or objects);

5. Violability

The submissive lacks boundary-integrity and her personhood can be encroached upon at will by her owner.

6. Ownership

The submissive is owned and can be bought or sold.

7. Denial of Subjectivity

The submissive's experiences and feelings do not need to be taken into account.

8. Reduction to Body

The identity of the submissive can be reduced to simply her body, or even mere body parts.

9. Reduction to Appearance

The submissive is valued merely in terms of how she looks, with no value attached to any higher intelligence or emotion or personality.

10. Silencing

The submissive is silent, lacking the capacity to speak unless directed to do so.

References:

Langton, Rae, 2009, Sexual Solipsism: Philosophical Essays on Pornography and Objectification, Oxford: Oxford University Press.

Nussbaum, Martha, 1995, “Objectification”, Philosophy and Public Affairs, 24(4): 249–291.

Friday, July 10, 2015

Happy First Year Anniversary to my Boo!



Next week marks the first year of our time together....a year when we've been seeing each other almost every day

It's weird, but I can still remember vividly that day on July 16 of last year when I met Linda at The Chamber.

I was bored and doing my piano gig while working in RL.

As was usual, I was perving the profiles of a few people (both men and women...I wasn't looking for love, or even a little slex) who were at least moderately interesting, when I spotted a girl standing near the terrace doors who was wearing a blindingly bright orange outfit.

I almost, almost (!),  passed over her, but I figured I might as well say something about the outfit. Plus, her avi had a regular name and a full profile, which are big big pluses in my mind.

Little did I know I was going to get hitched that very day.

MK: Your outfit nearly blinded me when I popped in ;-)  Cool orange!

Linda: Ohh gosh..sorry..you are gonna need sunglasses

MK: Ma'am, I wear sunglasses all the time. I've been mistaken for Corey Hart at times.

Linda: Nice looking man

Linda: I get mistaken for Kellie Pickler...dont think it's a compliment..lol

MK: That's what lots of lindens will get you ha ha. No, let me correct that...that's what some lindens will get you AND an eye for looking like Keannu Reaves.

MK: *runs to google*

Linda: laughsss

MK: Va va va voom!!!!

Linda: Lots of lindens got me great boobs too...gotta love the adjust buttons.

MK: Let me see that outfit again...*clicks zoom*

Linda: Ohh i thought you meant RL.

MK: *ohh i thought you meant RL* you look like her in RL? Will you marry me?

Linda: Yes i will marry you!!!

MK: Well, that line HAD to work someday. Yay!

Linda: Are you rich and old?

MK: Old is a relative term. Rich too. Give me parameters.

Linda: laughssss

The conversation went on for some time, and it was immediately obvious to me that Linda was a smart, and quite funny girl. She walked over to the piano to watch me play, and before we parted friended me.

The rest, as they say, is history.







Tuesday, July 7, 2015

AFTER 4th JULY DANCE - PJs PARTY at Cafe LaPe'rouse @ Austin


Guest blogger Melinda Nyn hosted the AFTER 4th JULY DANCE - PJs PARTY at Cafe LaPe'rouse @ Austin on July 5, 2015. I managed to join in at the end of the festivities, though at the expense of the gathered party-goers, who were treated to the horrifying sight of my green undies peeking out of my red pants. Someone who shall remain nameless even suggested there was something stinky and moldy going on...ahem. Anyways, enjoy the report and video below.

After the excitement of real life 4th July celebrations what better than to relax with a lazy Sunday pajama party?

I took over the newest area of Austin, the Mountain Retreat, and DJ Painthorse Graysmark was on hand to belt out some of the best of the tunes of yesteryear - well 60s and 70s!  The dress code,  of pjs, sweats or nighties, was strictly adhered to and Master Ratzu laid down line dancing pods for all.

There was a good crowd of Austin folk in attendance on what could've been a quiet stay-at-home day  - Avril even managed to video some of the dancing so you can  enjoy it as if you had been there!

- Melinda Nyn







Sunday, July 5, 2015

MK's thoughts on D/s

A Master must be grounded for his girl to fly.

What I've learned as I navigate the treacherous waters of D/s.

Friday, July 3, 2015

Basic Guide to Objectification, Dehumanization, and Depersonalization (ODD) in BDSM

Milking the nurse cow
This is the first in a series of posts that will deal with fetishes that have been labeled as objectification, dehumanization, and depersonalization in BDSM, which I will refer to as ODD for short. To see more writings on this topic, click the ODD label below this article.

Some of the more extreme aspects of BDSM are found in a broad range of fetishes that have been categorized as objectification, and which I'll lump into a group (Objectification, Dehumanization, and Depersonalization  or ODD) for the purposes of this post. These range from some less objectionable types of play such as dressing up someone to change their appearance, to more extreme fetishes, such as treating a person as a toilet or a mere piece of meat to be used at will by anyone.

There has always been some confusion about ODD. This is mainly because some of the definitions used are so all-encompassing that they have been ascribed to more than one type of fetish, or the delineation between the types are sometimes vague and you get a range of play that merge from one type to the other with no real distinct boundaries.

This post is an attempt to provide some structure to the various fetish plays that fit into the broader ODD grouping. It is not meant to be a final and unalterable dogma on the topic, but rather a work in progress that can be updated and modified.

Listed below are definitions of the subcategories of ODD and some examples of each.

A. OBJECTIFICATION

Clockwork Doll
This refers to treating the person as a mere inanimate or non-living object, and may include the following types of play, where the person is treated as:
  • A living doll or mannequin
  • A toilet or various other degrading objects that deal with human waste
  • A sushi platter or various other similar objects
  • A piece of furniture such as a stool or chair (forniphilia)
  • A piece of art such as a statue
  • A robot
  • A sex toy (e.g. gimps)
  • Glory-holes and other similar contraptions such as slut-in-the-boxes where the person is whittled down to a set of functionalities
  • Forced transformations into objects
B. DEHUMANIZATION

Pony Girl
This refers to treating the person like an animal or a beast, and may include the following types of play:
  • Pet play (dog, puppy, kitten, etc)
  • Pony play
  • Service pets
  • Breeding and Milking (maiesiophilia)
C. DEPERSONALIZATION

Generic slave
This is the least extreme of the various ODD subcategories, and refers to treating the person as if he or she has a different identity or no identity and human rights at all. The amorphous nature of this subcategory means that it oftentimes seamlessly merges into broader role play fetishes, and so in this post I will try to define the term as it applies to ODD.

For our purpose we will restrict this subcategory of ODD to those situations wherein the person is stripped of all personhood or unique personal characteristics, such that he or she is perfectly interchangeable with another physically similar person who can fulfill the same exact role. That is, one can swap the subject person with another person who is physically similar without creating any significant problems or loss of enjoyment/pleasure for the partner(s) or target audience.

As such, this may include such things as:
  • Slaves
  • Ragdoll and corpse play
  • Forced modifications of physical appearance
  • Dressing up
As I noted above,  this post is not meant to be a final and unalterable dogma on the topic, but rather a work in progress that can be updated and modified. I welcome any comments and suggestions regarding the topic, and you may get in touch with me via my main avatar in second life, MK (monkeyking2011 resident).

More in the series:

Ten important features and goals of Objectification, Dehumanization, and Depersonalization (ODD)

The Alanis Angels at Alanis Gallery in Xaara

Depersonalization during anonymous sex rituals

Austin Sculptures



Humphrey Bogart? Pfffft!!!


I'm trying to take good pics to catalog some of the poses in one of the Austin chairs when Linda starts chomping on a cigar and wants all of us there to think she's channeling Bogart....rigggghtttt!!!! *nods vigorously*

Oh, and just call me no-neck Mr. Toad....whose left hand seems suspiciously close to his Windy Willows.


Thursday, July 2, 2015

Rozku's GIS Event at Crepax Gallery


Linda and I managed to catch the last part of Rozku's GIS Event at Cafe O on July 2, 2015, a voice reading of selections from The Story of O read by several different people, where the venue was nicely decorated with comic book scenes done by Guido Crepax, a renowned graphic illustrator.




The voice presentations were done by Avril Aura, Rozku, Tiger Zepp, and Melinda Nyn. I missed out on hearing Tiger's and Avril's parts, but did manage to catch Meli's narration in her low sultry British voice, as well as Rozku's European-accented rendition of the seminal work by writer Anne Desclos (writing under the name Pauline Réage).

Avril Aura reading

Tiger Zepp reading

Melinda Nyn reading

Rozku reading


Monday, June 29, 2015

Another good day

So soft...I could spend hours just holding her
Another good day with my lovely boo...

We spent the last part of the day dancing at Cafe O....I love the dance moves on one of the couple balls...some elegant poses, as can be seen below.

I then spent a few minutes chatting with Mari (Mari Carducci), Marcus (MarcusMassaro Resident), Aisha Sohl, and Screwtape (Screwtape Foulsbane) about the reasons why I felt Austin was special: the long history and continuity provided by the sim (my girl had been there even as early as 2010 or 2011!); the people who make it more than just pixelated buildings and other inanimate structures; and the minimal drama in it compared to other sims....




Saturday, June 27, 2015

Home

Coming back home to my sweet baby girl
It's always a minor miracle when I come back home to find the crops growing...and Linda's Little Black Book still safely locked and unopened.

I missed my little boo, but had her in my thoughts always.


Saturday, June 20, 2015

Setting up a 1950s photoshoot

Gonna miss my little boo
I'll be missing my little color-coordinated barbie doll this coming week, but we did manage to start preparing for a 1950s photoshoot that Lilian Howley would be doing.

I've found the process of preparing for it somewhat interesting.

First of all, we needed outfits for both of us that would be in line with that period of time.

Linda had some clothes that fit the 1950s mold, but i decided to shop around anyways for a couple more outfits to fatten up the selection. Plus, I liked dressing up my little boo, an alarming discovery similar to when I first realized I liked mixing and matching my own outfits a while back!

1950s Betty Dress
In my case, and as always for the males, the process was quite a bit easier, and I decided some suit would do just fine for the shoot.

The next step would be to create or find animations and poses for the shoot.

For this step, we decided to test out one of the chairs that we had stumbled upon at Austin, which was called a Dutchie maledom club chair, and which I thought was rather overpriced in the MP at 5000 Lindens.

In addition to the usual sex and pre-sex poses and animations, it had several categories that I found might serve our purposes.

The first one, called HIS, contained about 6 or 7 poses that were very D/s related. I loved some of the more dignified poses, but a few were outright funny, with the girl worshiping the Dom's feet for example.

One of the HIS poses
The second called SERVE contained some poses where the girl would be providing some servile work for the seated Dom such as serving drinks, while the last category called TLC had some rather nice poses where the affection between the Dom and his sub was in full display.

One of the TLC poses
In the end, we thought the chair would serve nicely as a prop during the shoot, though we're still on the lookout for other props.

A kitchen scene perhaps? ;-)

Monday, June 15, 2015

1950s Fetish



As some of you may know, I have a 1950s fetish.

I like seeing women in those prim outfits, cooking and baking in the kitchen, serving their men in every which way possible with nary a complaint, and all in all being the proper housewife.

I find the juxtaposition between this prim and proper image and the underlying sexuality of the woman alluring. I find the thought of taking this same woman and savagely exposing the raw and animal slut inside her irresistible - using her to satiate my needs and leaving her soiled and undone, the direct opposite of the apotheosis of the model housewife and mother.

Saying that, I think we all have to be careful about going overboard and actually thinking that the 1950s in America was a better time overall for most people. We have to be careful about separating out the fantasy and nostalgia and fetish elements from the reality of the period. We have to be careful about not looking at the era using rose colored glasses that filter out the vast societal inequalities and unfairness that was rampant at the time.

The 1950s were not exactly the best times for many people in America.

1. Jim Crow laws still had a hold on most of the country, and racism was frequently overt and vicious. It wasn't until the 1960s that most of these laws were assigned to the dustbin of history where they rightfully belong.

2. Domestic violence against women was probably just as widespread then as it is now (no, people were not somehow morally "better" then), but it was not until the 1970s when widespread attention was called to this problem, so the hidden incidences per capita of such abuses could have been much worse.

3. The Civil Rights Act was not in place until the 1960s, which meant people could routinely be discriminated against for their race or gender or sexual preferences without any consequences for the malicious parties.

4. Although women did work outside the home at the time, mostly in menial and domestic type jobs, there were definite barriers to them being able to climb up the corporate ladder or work in certain types of jobs, and in all cases women earned significantly less than their male counterparts.

5. Communicable diseases had a much stronger grip on the nation at that time due to the lack of vaccination and many other health conveniences we take for granted today. For example, polio still routinely killed infants and young children, and in the epidemic of 1952 several thousand children died and tens of thousands were left disabled by the disease.

6. Many of the modern conveniences like cellphones and the internet that we have today were non-existent at the time, and people lived in a world that was much more limited and constraining.

7. People smoked. They smoked a lot. Besides the second hand smoke that intruded on the health of even those who chose not to smoke, the smell of cigarette probably permeated closed rooms and almost everywhere people gathered in large numbers.

8. Mainstream culture was a lot less tolerant of anyone who deviated from the norm than today, whether  it involved the LGBT community or other alternative lifestyles.

In the end, there is nothing wrong with romanticizing that period in time, or looking back at it nostalgically as a simpler era. But it behooves us not to forget the very many negatives that were happening at that time as well.

Friday, June 12, 2015

Lori Novo models Miss SL Indonesia 2015 Costume


Lori Novo looked resplendent in an outfit made for Miss SL Indonesia 2015 by Dani Plassitz.

The kebaya costume was accented by jewelry that made me think of the highly ornamented accessories worn by very young Balinese Legong dancers.

Makasih Lori, kau cantik sekali!