Showing posts with label dominance. Show all posts
Showing posts with label dominance. Show all posts

Friday, January 30, 2015

What Kind of Dominant Are You?

Booyah!
I took an interesting quiz that tries to figure out your dominant type (the corresponding quiz for submissives is here).

I took it without thinking too much about each question, and my personal result seems to indicate I am a sadistic daddy white knight.
  1. The Bear Dominant16%
  2. The Collector Dominant8%
  3. The Daddy or Mommy Dominant68%
  4. The FemDomme Mistress0%
  5. The Gorean Slave Master28%
  6. The Ineffable Dominant28%
  7. The Lesser God Dominant20%
  8. The Sadistic Dominant84%
  9. The Tin Pot Dominant4%
  10. The White Knight Dominant52%
The definitions were as follows:
The Bear Dominant.  The Bear Dom is typically a burly gay or bisexual male Dominant who prefers diminutive and youthful gay or bisexual male submissives. Some Bear Doms are attracted to lady-boys and boyish females, as well. They are called Bear Doms mostly for their tendency to exhibit hyper-masculinity and somewhat exaggerated male characteristics such as a muscular or stocky build and abundant body hair. Bear Doms are commonly encountered in the BDSM leather and LGBT subcultures. Best match: The Painslut Submissive / The Little Submissive.

The Collector Dominant.  The Collector is focused on building a stable of submissives similar to a harem.  For the Collector, quantity always trumps quality.  In his way of thinking, the measure of a Dom’s standing is how many submissives he can accumulate, without much regard for who, or even what, those submissives may be.   It is relatively common for a Collector Dom to attempt to collar a submissive mere minutes after meeting her for the first time in an online chat room or on a BDSM social network. Best match: The Novice Submissive / The Pseudo Submissive.

The Daddy or Mommy Dominant.  Daddy & Mommy Doms find fulfillment in the relationship dynamic that exists between the Dominant and submissive, who is usually referred to asbaby, babygirl, babyboy, little one, or other pet name that reinforces the sub’s child-like status in the relationship A Daddy or Mommy Dom craves a sub with the ability to trust absolutely, a spirit of wide-eyed innocence and playfulness, an eagerness for guidance, and no-holds-barred adoration. Best match: The Little Submissive / The Pet Submissive / The Brat Submissive.

The FemDom Mistress.  The FemDom is always a dominant female who utilizes a unique combination of force and sexual role reversal.  She may prefer either male or female submissives, and is sometimes referred to as a Domme, Domina, Dominatrix, or Mistress.  A sub-category of FemDom is the FinDom,  a contraction of Financial Dominant.  There is often a significant element of misandry (hatred of men) which may be real or role-played involved in the FemDom Topping style. Best matches: The Painslut Submissive / The Cow-Pig Submissive.

The Gorean Slave Master.  A Gorean Slave Master, almost by definition, is a male Dominant who prefers slaves to submissives and subscribes to a highly stylized, authoritarian, and ritualistic way of life described in John Norman’s science fiction novels about the planet Gor.  Goreans typically believe that women are inferior to men and deserve to be enslaved.  Gorean slaves are treated as property, have no rights, and cannot own property of their own.  Best matches:  The Kajira Slave / The Domestic Submissive.

The Ineffable Dominant.  The Ineffable Dom is typically a Dominant who has been in the D/s lifestyle for several years or longer and has, mostly through trial and error, learned what does and doesn’t work best in his D/s relationships.  He has consciously explored and borrowed traits and characteristics from the other Dominant categories.  The synergy created with each new partner brings new facets to the Ineffable Dom’s unique (and sometimes indescribable) Topping style.   Best matches:  The Warrior Princess Submissive / The Acolyte Submissive.

The Lesser God Dominant.   A Dominant who expects and thrives on the worship of his or her submissives.  This adoration and worship, which can sometimes take the form of highly ritualistic activities and behaviors, has but one purpose, which is the ego gratification of the Lesser God.  It is relatively common for the households of Lesser God Doms to forsake all traditional forms of religion in order to practice their own home-grown religion, with the Dom at its head and subs as followers.  Best match: The Acolyte Submissive / The Domestic Submissive.

The Sadistic Dominant.  A Dom who enjoys or becomes sexually aroused from inflicting physical or emotional pain or discomfort upon his partners.  Whether or not his partner is a masochist (someone who enjoys pain) is usually irrelevant to the pleasure that a Sadistic Dom gets from inflicting it.  There is a wide spectrum of sadism that can range from the minimally sadistic yet skilled pain-inflictor on one end, to the abusive or pathologically dangerous extreme sadist at the other end of the scale. Best match:  The Painslut Submissive / The Cow-Pig Submissive.

The Tin Pot Dominant.  The TPD is primarily a role player.  He doesn’t consider what he does as a deception; he considers it role play.  For him, D/s isn’t a lifestyle; it’s entertainment.  He sees it as perfectly natural and appropriate behavior, mainly because he believes he is interacting with others who are doing precisely the same thing.  Since he believes that everyone is simply making it up as they go along, he feels pretty confident in doing so himself.  Best matches:  The Pseudo Submissive / The Novice Submissive / The Brat Submissive.

The White Knight Dominant.  The White Knight Dom wants to right wrongs, slay dragons, rescue subs in trouble, treat his submissive like a princess, and become King – and he wants to do it all before lunch.  He is driven by a sense of chivalry and altruism that transcends what he considers to be the sordid and tawdry business of self-gratification.  Making you happy makes him happy.  The White Knight lives to find solutions to your problems, but the downside is, not all problems are fixable.  Best matches:  The Warrior Princess Submissive / The Acolyte Submissive.

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

Dominant warning signs for submissives and slaves in Second Life


This a growing list that I'll add to once in awhile. My personal opinion only.

1. He shelters you from your friends or from meeting new people

2. He is moody. He has emotional mood swings.

3. He cannot be bothered to focus his attention on you during scening.

4. He does not believe in limits in SL and is color blind when it comes to safewords.

5. He loves taking you to laggy fuck sims all the time.

6. He spends an inordinate amount of time in SL. Being well-rounded means having a sane balance between your SL and RL lives. Problems in RL sooner or later manifest themselves in SL.

7. He wants to collar you approximately one hour into a conversation. This either means you are the greatest thing since they invented California rolls or he has really low standards. Take your pick.

8. He has a quick turnover of lovers, sub, slaves, or has a huge harem whose members go in and out all the time.

9. His avatar looks like a noob. If he can't be bothered to improve himself, why do you think he would even bother to try to improve and help you?

10. His definition of slexing is restricted to jumping on poseballs and uttering one liners until he gets his wank on.

11. He loves boasting about his conquests and BDSM skills.

12. He has no payment information on his avatar. This either means he has a main somewhere that he is hiding from you, or he has manna falling from heaven (in which case, you had better jump and marry this guy)

13. He likes throwing you way past your limits and later says it's because he's teaching you new things and helping you grow.

14. He thinks you giving an opinion or constructive suggestion is topping from the bottom or you being a bratty sub.

15. He loves tagging himself as a Master, or naming himself as one.

16. He puts down other Doms for no solid reason...other than to elevate himself.

17. He thinks of you more as an experimental subject or wank toy rather than someone who can learn and grow with him.


Thursday, November 13, 2014

How to tell you're doing domly right



1. You care more about the sub's safety and health than you do about your own pleasure. For example, you're not wanking uncontrollably and going into some inner headspace yourself while controlling a scene

2. You don't expect every sub you meet to kneel down before you in abject worship of your domliness, or even expect them to call you Sir, much less to jump into bed with you automatically just because they are submissive.

3. You actually do your research and don't base your entire repertoire of domly dom stuff on literature like the Story of O, or even worse, the Gor novels. You continue to actively learn, and talk openly to your sub and with others...go to discussions, and practice practice practice in SL and RL. You're not the fucking lone ranger...you don't exist in a vacuum.

4. You never ever believe YOUR way is always the RIGHT way. You adjust, adapt, and are flexible as you learn more things, whether it be about your partner or about D/s in general,

5. You don't mold a sub into what YOU want her to be, you help the sub achieve the best of what SHE can be.

6. You make sure you have control over yourself first before letting someone entrust control over themselves to you.

7. You use the right tool for the job. Now put that car battery back into the car where it belongs.

8. You do the dishes. Yes, you. You don't forget there are much more important things in life than getting your domly on.

9. You're honest with yourself and with the people around you.

10. You are humble and realize that you will make mistakes, and when you do you graciously acknowledge them and learn so you'll do better next time.